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Teens and thoughts of sex

January 20, 2017

Being a teen you should know during the teen years the hormonal and physical changes of puberty usually mean people start noticing an increase in sexual feelings. Its common to wonder and sometimes worry about new sexual feelings. 

All teens have sexual lives, whether with others or through fantasies. An important part of adolescence is thinking about and experimenting with aspects of your sexuality. This will help you to grow and discover who you are and who youre becoming.

An important part of your sexuality is physical changes your body goes through, for example, puberty, which includes the onset of the first menstrual period for girls, and the first emission of semen for boys. 

Many teens are physically ready for sexual activity before they are emotionally ready. It is important to think, learn, and plan for sexual activity. Part of that involves better understanding of your own sexual feelings and who you are attracted to. With sexual orientation is the emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction that a person feels toward another person. 

During the teen years, people often find themselves having sexual thoughts and attractions. These feelings and thoughts might be intense and seem confusing and learning about sex and relationships might be difficult so it can help to talk to someone about the confusing feelings that go with growing up. Try to speak directly with your parents or other adults about sex, whether that someone is a parent or other family member, a close friend or sibling, or a school counselor. Its not always easy to find somebody to talk to. But it would be useful to find that confiding in someone they trust and using simple language to describe both your feelings and activities. A teen girl could find information of how to deal with peers or boyfriends who are pressuring you to have sex and ask advices from her older sister, etc.

There are many risks connected with sexual activity, including healthy ones — for example, feeling close to another person, enjoying physical pleasure, and learning about yourself; and unhealthy ones — for example, becoming pregnant or getting someone else pregnant; or catching a sexually transmitted disease such as herpes, venereal warts, or HIV, among others.

Sexual intercourse of any type — vaginal, anal, or even oral — can transmit disease. It is important to learn the rules for safer sex and to be able to talk and negotiate with your sex partner in order to protect yourself.

Some of the red flags that indicate that you are involved in dangerous sexual risk-taking include participating in unprotected intercourse or having sexual relationships in which you do not trust your partner, or feel victimized or abused, or feel that you are abusing or victimizing someone else. If you are in any of these situations, it is important to ask for help.

Before you become sexually active, it is important to prepare by learning about your own body, committing to safer sex, and maybe even role-playing tough situations so that you are ready to protect yourself when the time comes. “Sexual readiness” means more than whether your body is physically ready or able to have sex. 


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