How to calm down and stop doing things you regret
Perhaps, one of the most powerful ways that mindfulness has changed your life is how you can work with your anger. Mindfulness practice will allow you to pay attention to what happens in your mind and body when anger is rising. This is the "volume knob" of anger.
This whole practice is extremely important because it gives us a chance to pause / Ph. Pinterest
Practice and feel the change from deep within you
“Neurologists claim that every time you resist acting on your anger, you’re actually rewiring your brain to be calmer and more loving.” – Unknown.
A great practice you can start using is mindfulness communication. This involves being fully present in a conversation, including listening while also paying attention to what your own mind and body are doing.
You should start practicing this with someone you may not be able to get along well with, but not someone who makes you so emotional. This can be a colleague you don't like, a family member or a friend in your inner circle. If this is too much for you, you can do it while browsing posts on social media or watching the news.
While communicating with this person, pay attention to the emotions that arise in your body and the feelings you are getting. Start paying attention to what they have said, activate this initial emotion and be aware of where you feel the feeling in the body.
Instead of turning to judgment, just be curious. Be fascinated by the reason why your body and mind are reacting to the way they are in that moment. When you treat these thoughts and feelings calmly, you are less likely to react poorly in the situation.
This whole practice is extremely important because it gives us a chance to pause. When we pause, we can respond instead of responding. The reaction is often what the original part of our brain wants to do, and we don't have much thinking about it. This often leads to regret and suffering. By being able to pause, and then respond, we make a much smarter decision. This will be practiced until you have control over your temperament, but over time, you will start thinking about situations that will make you leave your job.
Practice to grow and improve yourself.