How to be a good Boss that people love to work with?
How to be a good boss that people love to work with? Remember the bosses, teachers, coaches or leaders you love most. What made you feel that way about them?
Usually it will depend on how they make you feel. Get motivated! Challenge! Listen! Reliable! A better version of you!
Here are some ways to be a boss people that love to work with - a leader everyone loves to obey.
How to be a good boss that people love to work with? / ph: pexels
Arrogance is the evil twin sister of confidence. Outwardly looking confident, but the inside contained insecurity along with condescending.
Arrogance can sometimes be caused by energy, but it is energy with closed thinking. So it cannot accept new or better ideas from everyone, even from subordinates.
Modesty is confidence plus sophistication - it's a quality that allows you to open up necessary enough for personal growth.
Modesty also allows a leader to be proud of his subordinates rather than just himself. It allows your subordinates to shine. Giving sincere compliments to others is a sign of modest and energy. This is a very attractive quality in a leader.
Modesty is always a sign of emotional maturity while arrogance is a sign of emotional immaturity. Even if you are the best or the leader of thousands, you should be modest.
The really strong people lift others up. The really powerful people bring people together.
Listening is crucial for effective leadership. Even so, you need the modesty we've discussed to make the most of this skill.
Listening without threatening opinions that differ from their own is how good leaders gather accurate information. If your employees are afraid to tell you everything except what they think you want to hear, then it won't be possible for you to make a wisest decision.
Listening also helps your employees know you care and respect them.
Listening does not mean that you agree or change the way you act based on the will of the majority or new information, but it does mean that you accept all ideas and information with an open mind, then make the wisest decision.
Of all leadership skills, listening is the most valuable and fundamental skill. Often leaders don't listen, and they are still ordinary leaders. But a few great people never stop listening. That's how they get information first and foremost about unseen problems and opportunities.
The damage from micromanagement includes destroying subordinate initiatives, compromised trust, the respect is reduced and your chances of successfully reaching your goal is weakened.
Micro management is the initiative's professional killer.
Fulfilled prophecy is also based on this concept. If people know they are trusted, they will often rise to gain that belief.
Everyone needs to be trusted to do a good job. Everyone needs to be trusted. If the staff messes things up, let's extend trust again… and again… as long as they sincerely work to improve. Don't penalize their mistakes with micromanagement. Instead use trust and belief.
Of course, as a leader you are responsible for everything to be successful, you can monitor and investigate. But the line between investigative surveillance and crushing someone's will is very fragile.
Trust is a form of belief. People can be empowered in their lives just thanks to trusting someone for them.
A micro-management boss is like a coach who wants to get involved in the game. Leaders should only guide, support and sit next to cheering.
A leader who knows to lead is a leader that people like to obey. A leader should treat himself like a subordinate, and think how his subordinates want to be treated. Someone who respects themselves. Someone who believes in themselves. Someone who always tries to be better. One forgives themselves. One person believes in themselves.
There is a lot to say about leaders who do their best and always set higher standards for themselves.
By improving themselves first, they are setting an example. Modeling is the foundation of all good leadership. These leaders have the traits they want from their subordinates, and who you are is more meaningful than what you say.
Always keep yourself up to the same standards or higher than what you would expect to see from others, because you cannot lead a person up the mountain while you are just at the foot of the mountain.
Money always prevents you. Everything that happens in your sphere of influence is your responsibility.
This does not mean that success is due to your merit. It was from subordinates. But failure is up to you. It's not anyone's fault or something's. Never! This is a hard medicine to swallow, especially you know the reasons for failure, but a leader cannot excuse and lead at the same time.
Leadership and blame are polar opposites
A leader also needs the courage to bond with his subordinates. A leader can say and even do all the right things in easy times, but what they do in tough times is more valuable. Do they protect their subordinates against unreasonable instructions from above? Are they always behind the staff when needed?
A leader who shows the courage to do the right thing in the face of difficulty is an admirable person. A leader "with mutual benefits and undivided harm" ends up getting wet like a mouse when the rain of adversity strikes.
Leaders infuse the energy of responsibility when they have the ability to accept responsibility before blaming.
Of course, this isn't all it takes to have great leadership, but apply these traits and you will go well on your path to becoming a boss, rather than a leader, that everyone likes to obey.